KAYMICHELLE97

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Do you have to use a canned answer?

« on: Late November, last year »

Why would a guy use a canned answer like the one below instead of writing a decent response back to a woman. I try to only use those if I think the person is a scammer or something. I just find it rather disappointing to receive such an answer from someone who seems to be articulate.

Hi,

Thanks for writing. This is just to let you know that I received your letter:-)

Take Care.

Thanks for sharing your insight on this matter.
KayM


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Re: Do you have to use a canned answer?

« Reply #1 on: Late November, last year »

Quote from: KAYMICHELLE97 on Late November, last year

Hmm.... that sounds ~~strangely~~ hauntingly familiar. Cheesy

I was told once....by a wise man that I knew...once.... that some people are concise writers... but...I'm not one of them, btw.... LoL.... Just in case you had some confusion on that issue...or...by some remote chance you didn't know that yet... LoL

That's my two endcents worth. Grin


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Re: Do you have to use a canned answer?

« Reply #2 on: Late November, last year »

For whatever reason, that is all he wanted to say. Give yourself the gift of no expectations until you have entered into a trustworthy friendship. When another man does provide you with the communication you desire, it will be a delight and a surprise.


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Re: Do you have to use a canned answer?

« Reply #3 on: Late November, last year »

Oooops. I just realized this was Ask a GUY. [banned]

Oh well!

I'll blame it on the hammerhead ache. [roflrofl]

LoL


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Re: Do you have to use a canned answer?

« Reply #4 on: Late November, last year »

Oh yes, felt I needed to add...definitely do not think that a concise answer is a canned one simply because it is concise. Just think that some people have concise answers. Cheesy

Yes, it's difficult to understand from a woman's point of view, but it doesn't mean the man isn't communicating. At least he wrote you that much, which is a lot more than some people will write...not at all. Undecided

And I would personally interpret it to mean he was being gracious in letting you know he received your email so you wouldn't think you were being ignored...but making it clear that at the moment in time, he wasn't ready to discuss whatever it was you had asked about in the email...so patience sister...is usually going to be the quay at the end of the ~~tea~~ sea Grin

"Sitting on the dock of the bay..."

TBC ☼:-)


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Re: Do you have to use a canned answer?

« Reply #5 on: Late November, last year »

I realize this is Ask a Guy but I feel I have a pretty good grasp on men, most of the time..as in what they mean also by how long it takes them to respond..(usually that is). And most men aren't going to explain this to you. :-)

I don't know if you correspond with this person on a regular basis or just a casual basis but the "take care" alone with such a short message generally means that this person isn't willing to put the effort into a consistent relationship/friendship with you. Basically they are stating (so to not be rude) that they received your message but have nothing to write in return. Even articulate people can be like that.

My experience, guys only continue lengthy articulate communication with someone they are interested in or are a really good friends with. Otherwise, their sudden halt in communication or sudden distanceness means they are just simply in a different place now and no longer wish to get to know that person better.

There's really nothing we can do as the receiver of this message. We can't make someone communicate with us. Sometimes a person is only a friend for a season. Just the way it is :-)

Count your blessings and move on if this person no longer wishes to correspond :-)


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Re: Do you have to use a canned answer?

« Reply #6 on: Late November, last year »

in short, most men are simple minded creatures, and lazy so they give the short response.


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Re: Do you have to use a canned answer?

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Quote from: PUNK on Late November, last year

in short, most men are simple minded creatures, and lazy so they give the short response.

Actually...I prefer to think of laziness as genius. LoL Just think... where would we be today tech wise if someone hadn't been thinking of a way to get something done faster, more efficiently, and with minimal effort? Grin

The truth is...laziness does fuel a lot of motivation for getting things done, at least when it comes to inventing new things...However, I do not deny laziness can be a fault...which by the way, is every bit as prevalent in women, folks... Roll Eyes


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Re: Do you have to use a canned answer?

« Reply #8 on: Late November, last year »

As a lady not a guy. I think it is a polite way to say; Thank you; but i am not interested..

Thats how i would accept his answer.

Shae


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Re: Do you have to use a canned answer?

« Reply #9 on: Late November, last year »

Quote from: PUNK on Late November, last year

in short, most men are simple minded creatures, and lazy so they give the short response.


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Re: Do you have to use a canned answer?

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Quote from: SHAE2 on Late November, last year

As a lady not a guy. I think it is a polite way to say; Thank you; but i am not interested..

Thats how i would accept his answer.

Shae


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Re: Do you have to use a canned answer?

« Reply #11 on: Late November, last year »

Dear Kay,

If I were you I wouldn't even give one second of a thought to that guy or his answer. He is definitely not interested and he has done the best he could.
Just forget about him and move on.
Trying to analyze people's manners or the way they communicate their messages, especially men, is just a waste of time to me.(who can know the mind of man [thinking]

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I bet you have more important things to do. That guy doesn't deserve your time....if you know what I mean.
Be happy and wait on the Lord for the right one to come. [pray]


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Re: Do you have to use a canned answer?

« Reply #12 on: Late November, last year »

You ask why would a guy do this ? well for one thing it's one of the canned responses we are allowed to use on these sites and the other is . Rather than go into a detail letter . he must have felt an answer was at least better than no answer.
I don't believe it is rude , because we are presented all the time with issues and we would say no thank you and leave it at that. Why does he owe anyone an explanation about why he may not be interested.?
It's not the way I handled things when I was looking but , maybe he was getting many responses and he had no time to properly reply.
One last thing , when I made it clear that I was not looking and was here for the forums only . I received contacts from ladies , I figured if they didn't have enough courtiousy to read my profile , I owed them nothing in my response.


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Re: Do you have to use a canned answer?

« Reply #13 on: Late November, last year »

I agree with HS and others on here. His response was not rude, but clearly he is not interested. Without blatantly saying so, he has been as nice as he can. :-)