Why would a guy use a canned answer like the one below instead of writing a decent response back to a woman.  I try to only use those if I think the person is a scammer or something.   I just find it rather disappointing to receive such an answer from someone who seems to be articulate. 


Hi,

Thanks for writing. This is just to let you know that I received your letter:-)

Take Care. 


Thanks for sharing your insight on this matter.
KayM


 

I realize this is Ask a Guy but I feel I have a pretty good grasp on men, most of the time..as in what they mean also by how long it takes them to respond..(usually that is). And most men aren't going to explain this to you. :-)

I don't know if you correspond with this person on a regular basis or just a casual basis but the "take care" alone with such a short message generally means that this person isn't willing to put the effort into a consistent relationship/friendship with you.  Basically they are stating (so to not be rude) that they received your message but have nothing to write in return. Even articulate people can be like that.

My experience, guys only continue lengthy articulate communication with someone they are interested in or are a really good friends with.  Otherwise, their sudden halt in communication or sudden distanceness means they are just simply in a different place now and no longer wish to get to know that person better.

There's really nothing we can do as the receiver of this message. We can't make someone communicate with us.  Sometimes a person is only a friend for a season. Just the way it is :-)

Count your blessings and move on if this person no longer wishes to correspond :-)

Actually...I prefer to think of laziness as genius. LoL Just think... where would we be today tech wise if someone hadn't been thinking of a way to get something done faster, more efficiently, and with minimal effort?  The truth is...laziness does fuel a lot of motivation for getting things done, at least when it comes to inventing new things...However, I do not deny laziness can be a fault...which by the way, is every bit as prevalent in women, folks...

 

Dear Kay,

If I were you I wouldn't even give one second of a thought to that guy or his answer. He is definitely not interested and he has done the best he could.
Just forget about him and move on.
Trying to analyze people's manners or the way they communicate their messages, especially men, is just a waste of time to me.(who can know the mind of man  )
I bet you have more important things to do. That guy doesn't deserve your time....if you know what I mean.
Be happy and wait on the Lord for the right one to come.

I agree with HS and others on here. His response was not rude, but clearly he is not interested. Without blatantly saying so, he has been as nice as he can. :-)

That's an automated response on christian cafe. I think it's a horrible idea to have that option available to someone who receives an email, especially one with that text. I got a lot of those on the cafe, it has a very condescending tone.

Some people don't know how to come up with an answer that says "I'm not interested". so they use the canned answer.
For example, if a lady who is not my type sends me a wink, how should I reply?