Jim West

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Re: How do guys feel about assertive women in dating?

« Reply #30 on: Late last January »

I think it is fine for a woman to ask. While I don't find women who are aggressive to be appealing, assertiveness is a positive trait when used in proper contexts.

I have pursued enough women over the years both online and off, and it gets old always being the one who has to risk either the outright rejection, or getting ignored, which happens a lot online. So sometimes men get gunshy after a number of experiences like that.

If a woman has interest, and wants a relationship, she should not stand around waiting. Of course, this is always an individual decision. For those that want to wait, feel free. But for those who do not, if you feel you are being led by the Lord, I'd say to take that step out in faith.


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NANCYBIRD

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Re: How do guys feel about assertive women in dating?

« Reply #31 on: Late last January »

Quote from: Lawrence7 on Last January

Most women do seem to prefer a take-charge man. Is this because women are more inclined to be happy in a followership role. Or, is this more because through sin men are inherently lazy, and a woman doesn't really need a lazy man dragging her down?

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Yes, I do think the take-charge man is charming, it is engraved in our genes I think. The other day my father just gave me a speech, that all plants and animals show the same trait, he said it is always pollen who is flying around until he locates on the __ (female) I don't know the term in English, sorry Grin

, then he settles down on her. In a word, male is more active compare to female, so what does female do? She accepts and welcomes. I truly believe this. My mother is kind of bossy woman, but when she saw my father get serious and shows his male edge, she is happy

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I thinking that it is okay for women to express interest, to a point. One of the reasons so many nice women end up with bad men, is that bad men don't care that much about hurting a woman's feelings and have no reservation about pursuing women, regardless the outcome.

More sensitive men will hold back a little, and often pursue less, therefore many women miss out on building caring relationships. Often finding themselves divorced and remarried later to a nicer guy.

It is really hard for a guy to figure out which women are attracted to him in the righ way if those women choose not to share those feelings, just a little bit.

you probably are right about the bad man, but I didn't mean that kind of agressiveness.

Man and woman have different strengthes. Man is strong in strength, assertiveness, decisiveness, like a rock strong; but woman is more like water strong, how can water be strong? yes, water can not be broken, water has patience, do you ever heard that little drop of water will penetrate stone? woman's endurance is strong I think


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MUSICLVR32

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Re: How do guys feel about assertive women in dating?

« Reply #32 on: Late last January »

Great analogy, NancyBird. Sometimes I feel a little wishy-washy like water, but I know I have a certain strength too. The strength part comes from the Lord.

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STEVE1126

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Re: How do guys feel about assertive women in dating?

« Reply #33 on: Late last January »

I think women like take charge kinds of guys because women are designed to be responders. Another thing is a guy who approaches a woman is letting her know that he likes her and she feels wanted. Women like to feel wanted, appreciated, special, etc. If a guy is stand offish then the gal may not know that he is interested.


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NANCYBIRD

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Re: How do guys feel about assertive women in dating?

« Reply #34 on: Late last January »

Thanks, Music Azn

, yes, water is strong, soft, but strong, we should be proud of ourselves for this strength, and all good things come from Lord

You are right, Steve, we do want to be wanted.


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MUSICLVR32

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Re: How do guys feel about assertive women in dating?

« Reply #35 on: Late last January »

Good post, Steve. Sounds like you know a lot about women.

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Re: How do guys feel about assertive women in dating?

« Reply #36 on: Four weeks ago »

Like the song says, I want you to want me, I need you to need me, I'd love you to love me, I'm beggin' you to beg me. Grin


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Lawrence7

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Re: How do guys feel about assertive women in dating?

« Reply #37 on: Four weeks ago »

Hey, R., where you been? People been askin...


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Re: How do guys feel about assertive women in dating?

« Reply #38 on: Four weeks ago »

Agree!

And if the woman feels wanted, appreciated and special to a man, she won't stay passive...she will take an action too, if she has the same interest. It's actually easy to find out who is interested on you....very easy.

Quote from: STEVE1126 on Late last January


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STEVE1126

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Re: How do guys feel about assertive women in dating?

« Reply #39 on: Four weeks ago »

Quote from: HISBRIDE on Four weeks ago

Agree!

It's actually easy to find out who is interested on you....very easy.

Really huh? I wish it was easy. Yeah, them being happy when they see you, smiling a lot, etc are signs but often these are just signs that she likes you as a friend, not somebody she'd like to date.


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THEBLUECASTLE

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Re: How do guys feel about assertive women in dating?

« Reply #40 on: Four weeks ago »

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Agree!


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Re: How do guys feel about assertive women in dating?

« Reply #41 on: Four weeks ago »

Blue...what are you thinking sweet friend? Can't you open your heart to us? Grin

I am glad you're back to bring some new life and energy.
Most people here have run out of words and humor...it's pretty borrrring zowy


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Lawrence7

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Re: How do guys feel about assertive women in dating?

« Reply #42 on: Four weeks ago »

Quote from: HISBRIDE on Four weeks ago

Agree!

Relationships are an investment, by both parties. Too many people invest in getting a relationship, but then stop investing in the relationship once they get it.

When I think of couples being assertive, I generally think of it as their need to invest in the relationship. Not so much about their assertiveness to get a relationship. I think the world view gets this assertiveness issue backwards.