Both are important but I think what she DOES is what I remember and adore most.

Sorry...may I sneak in here Shinningstar? ....I promise I won't cause any troubles

From my point of view: Children remember more the words adults say to them then what they do for them.
That was the reason I didn't appreciate my mom very much when I was very young. She didn't say much but she did for us for what no mother would do.It took a long time to understand that she was the best mother in the world, although she was very reserved in words of affirmation.
As a grown up person I would remember someone by what they do for me, more than just what they say.
And that because I know most people are not good at expressing their feelings and often what they do is what they want to say. After all, isn't the "Act of Service" one of the five love languages?

the word adore is sooo precious to hear.......i would be honored to have someone  so special in my life,.....thank you sweet brother for posting...love, shinning.

Ramone....first...I am glad you did not alter your use of the word "adore".  I actually thought you might because I emphasized it. But for good purpose.  I know what you mean, sometimes I feel it should be reserved only in reference to the Lord, because I adore Him, but I do use it other times.  Perhaps, it is because when someone is demonstrating Godly qualities and serving and giving of themselves, it brings this word to mind.  Because it is more than we love what they are doing, it is stronger than that because it is so special.  Maybe I'll need to use Adore with a capital in reference to my Adoring the Lord. I Adore Him, and I adore some other smaller things others do.  As it is now, I never capitalize the name satan, who deserves nothing.

It's funny, because I tied for Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch and Quality Time, but do not put huge store in the Love Languages test.  For me it is more how we are wired and created as people with different personalities.  I also adore those little things, especially the little things, someone does for me, but I remember their words of affirmation clearly, too. I think as we mature and grow in our servant's heart that areas become more developed and balanced.  I love to give it all....acts of service, words of encouragement and praise, quality time, gifts.  And when married, more than simple affection one can give friends and family...but which is also important and good.

It is said that actions speak louder than words.  I think it is true mostly. It is best and wonderful when one's actions support one's words and words which are fulfilled in actions.  Same difference, I guess. There are times when they can be separate, but with the collective whole as Love expressed and given.

Still, I find it interesting that even though your love language is Words of Affirmation, acts of service remain uppermost in your mind.  This is one of the reasons why, I believe we need to learn to speak all of the languages as indicated in a relationship.  It is called being a servant, Christ-like....Love..through our words, deeds, touch (as appropriate), time, gifts.

What she says

I remember when she said and does what she did.  some yrs Prior to My Marrage to Susan I dated a couple of ladies who said many things but never came through when it mattered.  So I remembered what she said and what she did about what she said.

Words flow from people but it's what they do afterwards that means anything.  Walk the talk or don't talk about it.