I just changed my mind about how to post because I read Shae's wisdom.

I agree!  Rejoice with your son and his fiance.  Don't get into the squabble.

My personal feelings:  The size of the heart is more important than the size of the diamond.  If your son values his fiance then his love for her will pour out in appropriate ways.

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I agree with everyone .. what's in your heart is much, much more important than what's on your finger.  But, unfortunately we are living in a material world and a debt ridden one.  And let's face it some Christians are more materialistic than some non Christians.  So yeah just tell your son to tell them "we like the ring the way it is."
                                        Or    ....         if you wanna have some fun .....

Sell the ring to a hock shop or on ebay ... then go find the biggest, fattest zirconium ring and buy that for her.  She'll never know the difference and the parents will never know .. unless they are jewelers, lol.  j/k   

P.S.  Excuse me for posting in the "Ask a Lady" ... I just saw that .. just now, lol.

I think it is ignorant of the girl's parents to get picky about the size of the diamond. 
it shoud be between the couple and no one else
if that is all he can afford .... and she really loves him then that sould be all that matters

after all it is the love that will sustain the marriage

you should rejoice with your son.

and be cordial to the in-laws   (they must have a very cold marriage to be that picky, and so far away from God ... maybe life hardened them along the way ... or they never knew God)





for me .... if I make it to round 2, I would like a diamond larger than the 1st one given to me ...... and yet not larger than 3/4 (somewhere in the range of .5 - .75), and the reasons would be 'discussed' ...with him and no one else

true story: my ae told me that his mother was dating two guys (?maybe at or close to the same time?) and she chose the guy that had the larger diamond.   ..... and her 'heartlessness' was reflected in that gesture over the years.  my ae never saw 'true love' at home. he did not know how to show tenderness (doing the little things like holding hands, opening doors, helping with chores, love was not reflected in actions)  her heartlessness showed towards us --> she did not take the time to get to know me, she started making demands as to where the wedding would be [we had already decided adn st the date with the pastor, but his mom wanted it in her home town and it would have been a big scale affair ...that she offered to pay for], they did not give a wedding present ... even though she had mentioned a couple of ideas to me she renigged on them later.
and as hard as I tried to keep things 'alive' ae just could not get the 'dissproval' of his parents out of his mind and it turned him bitter (along with possibly some other factors).  we only saw his parents once more since we got married and the last time we saw his brother was that very day. We ended up living miles away from either set of in-laws but we were always welcomed by my brother and my Mom.


hope this helps


Sewing

You hit the nail on the head.


 
Me too.

I think the girls parents are wrong to meddle, but if your son loves his fianc'e he needs to deal with how she is feeling being put in the middle, ...and it is likely very important for her to stand by him if she has character enough to stand against her parents.

Selling diamond rings on the secondary market on ebay nets a big loss if you can even sell, as far as I can tell. I have a big old engagement ring about 1/2 Ct on there now for about half its value, and not so much as an offer.... That's from the brother that wound up jilting me many years ago now.  On the other hand, I have a ring I will not part with for a long time, from the fianc'e I just lost in death. The diamond is much smaller, and he told me we could get a different, bigger one, or whatever I might want, ...and I told him that was not necessary.  He got it, and gave it to me... and I think it is beautiful, ...and it is. I think it is more important to invest in the marriage, and not add extra stress of debts for things like rings... Of course this latter fianc'e was not a rich man. If a man has tons of money, and/or is buying himself all kinds of goodies... then that ring had better be proportionate.