SHAE2

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Re: why should men even care ?

« Reply #15 on: Late December, last year »

Lawrence;

Keep working on yourself.
The only relationship worth having is grounded in Christ,

And with two healthy emotional people.. If we are not whole and begin anew.. We will have only half a relationship.

Blessings
Shae


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Re: why should men even care ?

« Reply #16 on: Late December, last year »

Quote from: SHAE2 on Late December, last year

With all respect... I'd like to point out..that while the Christ centered part is so true... [thumbup]

.... it also goes to say...God can heal people who are married as well. I've seen it. if we all waited to be completely healthy in every way before we married, we'd very few of us be married... Maybe that's just as much of a problem as the other requirements above.... Going to show a lack of the beginning element of faith... trust. And I know it happens all the time. God can use people to help other people heal. A lot of people aren't completely healthy ( maybe even most people in some way shape or fashion...) and some aren't necessarily emotional while others may be really really so. LoL. I feel that with the Lord... it's a complete relationship no matter what shape the human parties are in. If God is complete, then God is the one who makes complete love, right? Not man.

Man just gets to take his God given abilities and put them into practice....that said... it definitely makes the human component easier to recognize the need for health in all areas of life and work toward attaining what that means for each person...But the God part is the most important part. The body part is just for a little while, and only profits man a little...So to recap... a relationship where God is first...is never half a relationship.

[blueheart]

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Re: why should men even care ?

« Reply #17 on: Late December, last year »

I am speaking of totaly divorced men or woman.

I mentor women and see the heartache -when two people have not worked thought there past issues.

Shae


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Re: why should men even care ?

« Reply #18 on: Late December, last year »

Quote from: SHAE2 on Late December, last year

I am speaking of totaly divorced men or woman.

I mentor women and see the heartache -when two people have not worked thought there past issues.

Shae

Oh, I see. I apologize for the misunderstanding!

Thanks for clarifying.. Hope you have a great day, Shae!


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Re: why should men even care ?

« Reply #19 on: Late December, last year »

No problem;

Have a Blessed Christmas-- as we celebrate the Birth of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

Shae


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Lawrence7

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Re: why should men even care ?

« Reply #20 on: Late December, last year »

Quote from: SHAE2 on Late December, last year

Keep working on yourself.
The only relationship worth having is grounded in Christ,

And with two healthy emotional people.. If we are not whole and begin anew.. We will have only half a relationship.

Very true.


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He's Making A List And Checking It Twice, Gonna Find Out Who's Naughty Or Nice

« Reply #21 on: Late December, last year »

Good post bro in Law.

Quote from: Lawrence7 on Late December, last year

We people of God live in Two Kingdoms while in this mortal life. We are still subject to our worldly side even though we have God in our spiritual side. Yes we are soldiers for Christ and we all have a daily battle to fight between good and bad, right and wrong, the flesh and the spirit, to be carnal or mature. Many times we don't admit it or talk about it, but we all have our daily battles.

If we were totally influenced by our spiritual side, which is our ideal, would we even care about seeking a mate? Maybe .. Maybe not. Jesus and Paul and I think the disciples did not seek a mate ... but ... how did they do that? I would need some pills to do that ... one for loneliness and one for hormones. LoL

And when we are influence by our worldly side, why would we settle for second best? Many of us have settled, and paid for it in difficlut or broken marriages, making us wonder if reinvesting in a relationship is worth it. Making us a little more skittish about our next relationship choices. Dude, when I was NM never married and in Bible college I had a list. When I married I compromised or settled on several things on the list ... and I paid for that mistake with a 'pounding'. And yeah it makes you skittish .. or wise. But skittish can be good .. for fools rush in where wise men fear to go.

I think re-evaluating our lists of demands and expectations is quite important. For all of us. I think a list is a good thing .. if it is Godly and reasonable .. it can keep you out of a lot of trouble.

I think my sisters on acs are Godly and reasonable. They want a man who loves the Lord because they love Him too. IMHO they don't want a perfect guy; they want a guy devoted to the perfect One and devoted to them as well. <>< <3


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Re: He's Making A List And Checking It Twice, Gonna Find Out Who's Naughty Or Nice

« Reply #22 on: Late December, last year »

Quote from: RAMONE on Late December, last year

Good post bro in Law.

I think some of us are destined to have a mate, and some not. For reasons I can only speculate.

I know that for me, being married precluded me from pursuing many carnal sins. And being single, those carnal urges again run strong. However, if I had some mission to occupy my time such as St. Paul et.al. I might not have time, energy, or desire, for those other carnal things.


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Re: why should men even care ?

« Reply #23 on: Late December, last year »

Brother Ramone, this is the most respectful statement I have heard from you, and also a truth that no one can deny.
Thanks for your understanding.
I hope many of the sisters here have been blessed
[thankyou]

I think my sisters on acs are godly and reasonable.
They want a man who loves the Lord because they want Him too.
IMHO they don't want a perfect guy; they want a guy devoted to the Perfect One and devoted to them as well.


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Re: He's Making A List And Checking It Twice, Gonna Find Out Who's Naughty Or Nice

« Reply #24 on: Late December, last year »

Law...to be honest I am very tempted to reason with you on your last statement of your post.
But no...I am not gonna do it. Instead I'll just pray and let God speak. [pray]

Quote from: Lawrence7 on Late December, last year


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Re: why should men even care ?

« Reply #25 on: Late December, last year »

Dating is kinda like fishing. The sea is full of fish but sometimes you fish all day and catch little or nothing .. while the other guy may catch a stringer full of fish. One thing my dad taught me was when you see a guy catching fish on one side of the boat, don't throw your line by his line .. just stay on your side of the boat. <>< <3


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Re: why should men even care ?

« Reply #26 on: Late December, last year »

Sir, may I say you father was a wise man [thumbup]


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Re: why should men even care ?

« Reply #27 on: Late December, last year »

Quote from: YRNUFELLA on Late December, last year

the main reason for this post is to understand,
one one hand the Ladies talk like they desire the super spiritual prayer warrior,You've seen the guy,knee's blown out of his jeans,toes of his shoes paper thin,totally forgot to brush his hair and teeth,homeless because he has completely left time,money,property and all other distractions behind long ago...
Yet,they seem to want him to be all clean shaven and well groomed,wearing nice clothes,
and with the exception of Hisbride ( she seems to understand ) have a job,car,dwelling,stability,and other senses of security also.
i didnt bring up twinkies and treadmills to bash obese persons, it was more a call to take action,vs, sitting around pity partying...
and as it is my understanding that globally,due to civil war's,ethnic cleansings,there are 11 females to each male Cry

This really reminded me of Matthew 6:25-34 "Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they/ Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life? And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the filed grow. They do now labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like on of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field which is here today and tommorow is thrown into the fire will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? So do not worry saying "What shall we eat?" or "What shall we drink?" or "What shall we wear" For the pagans run after all these things and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. BUT SEEK FIRST HIS KINGDOM AND HIS RIGHTOUSNESS AND ALL THESE THINGS WILL BE GIVEN TO YOU AS WELL. Therefore do now worry about tomorrow for tomorrow will worry about itself. EAch day has enough trouble of it's own."


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Matthew 6:33 "But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness and all these things will be given to you as well.

1 Corinthians 13:6-7 "Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."

John 11:35 "Jesus Wept"
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Re: why should men even care ?

« Reply #28 on: Late December, last year »

Quote from: YRNUFELLA on Late December, last year

This Sir is a total mis-representation of anything any woman has said here. Obviously you misunderstand what a man of prayer is.....so no need for any of us to try and explain....you won't get it!