We really love that brother...don't we...and he needs us

Support groups, shelters, and crisis centers are also available for men.   Traditionally men haven't been as comfortable talking about their problems; so support groups have generally attracted more women.  Maybe it's changing.  A group I recently led had more men attend than women.

I've also known men who have been victims of domestic violence.  They don't often speak up about it.  Perhaps it is embarrassing for a man to admit to being a victim since our society dictates that the man is supposed to be able to take care of himself physically.  The silence from a lot of men about the problem could make it seem more rare than it is.

A police officer I spoke with a few weeks ago about domestic violence told me that in most cases the man is abusing the woman.  If the woman leaves the home to protect herself, she can be accused of desertion and lose some of her legal rights to the home.  I guess she should call 911 then stay put until either the police arrive, she is hospitalized, or her life is terminated?

Even though it is rare, some women have been incarcerated.  I've not personally seen it, but I have heard that some prisons and jails also admit women.  Perhaps you have also heard that rumor?

YRNUFELLOW - I don't know your story.  You don't have to tell me.  Sometimes negative experiences can give us a distorted view of how things are.  Sometimes life really is unfair.  However, we have a loving God who genuinely cares and can help us deal with each phase of life.  May you be blessed in 2010 as you bless others.

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I'm confused I thought your post was about women with a list of demands and expections.




How is the post below connected to the one above?  Where you just needing to vent... I can relate to venting.
 
IMO, the only one who can complete us is the Lord. When people look for someone else to complete them, they setting their self up for much unhappiness. They will continue to be thirsty.

May the Lord send you a woman not to complete you but to compliment you.

Thank You Twoblesstwo222,i agree 
thank You Steve,i so agree with You.
thank You 1of7angels,althought i do disagree with You,marriage! 1 imperfect + 1 imperfect = 1 perfect

Oh my!guess i must apologize ,as my line of work,i get pulled away and can never finish a thought,
so thinking back,now maybe the title of this thread,should have been ,"Why should men be concerned with the thoughts of women?"honestly! i feel sorry for Your circumstance,the odds are so against You,yet everything else is in Your favor,All at the same time.lol,i confuse myself now

Yes Nora, of course, respect should be mutual.  I haven't walked in YRNU or Steve's shoes I understand their frustration.  If there are 11 women to every man then why can't I find one compatible single one in the 4 or 5 churches I have attended locally.  And then when you find one and ask her out you get the blah, blah, blah song and dance: "I'm working; I'm dating; I don't know you well enough; You're not interested enough in me; You're too far away; I don't like to go out much, lol, I'm trying to save money; I've got to clean my house,", lol, etc., etc.

My Bible study guy friend and I went out yesterday and today.  Neither of us could get a date, not even a non Christian one, lol ... sometimes I even ask non Christians out because of the difficulty in dating a Christian gal and the fact that there are so many non Christians and non church attending "Christians" out there.  So that's why I doubt the 11 to one # in our country.

Now when I went to the New Orleans French Quarter last night for New Years eve fireworks there were a lot of pretty women.  But how many of those are Christians.  And my buddy was walking so fast that it was hard to meet one anyway, lol.

Hey dear sistah Nora, since I can't sleep, I guess I'll post too, lol.  Sometimes I think it's some sort of punishment but then again it's probably my fault ... I wasn't aggressive enough at the right time and all that smooth talk (bs) blah, blah, blah, lol.  A lot of gals want you to pursue them like you're some kinda bloodhound or something and that's not my personality.  I'm easy going and fairly patient.  And then some ministers will tell you Not To Look!  LoL  Which I think now after 3 years without a date is kinda goofy (last year).  (Which goes to show me that ministers like doctors and politicians sometimes don't know what the hay they are talking about. LoL .. sad but true)

Attraction has to be mutual for me.  I need some eye contact and some show of interest.  I hear stories of guys chasing, hounding until the gal gets tired of resisting. (Sounds kinda cave-man-ish to me, lol, and not my style .. and maybe that's one reason why I'm still single, lol.)  Hey sis Nora ... do you think if I had a gizmo-ectomy that then I wouldn't have the desire to 'chase skirts' as they say and then I wouldn't have to worry with all this low percentage hormone induced calling dating pursuing asking seeking wooing courting excuses rejection incompatibility thing?       <><  <3

Hey sis, you're not off.  Yeah I had some difficulty adjusting back to dating too.  And I'm not gonna talk about the divorce and what it did to me because it's not pretty.  I will say that I think that the best descriptive word for divorce is: Horrible ... and I don't even like to think about it.  And I think maybe divorce is harder on kind hearted people like you Nora than it is on people that seem to not have a conscience.  My dad had an expression that he used to use that describes how cold some people can be: "harder than a whore's heart."

And it's not being negative ... it's just reality.  There are kind hearted people out there ... but there are cold ones too ... and that helps make dating and relationships difficult.  (Ok Bride I will end on something positive, lol.)  When I meet a warm hearted person my heart smiles.     

Dear friends who can't sleep in the night.All you are sharing here might be true.
But in spite of that,I wanted to encourage you;Turn your eyes upon Jesus. Trust Him with your life, your future, your mate. He is bigger than you your need. Give Him everything. Throw your burden and your cares upon Him and He'll take care of you and give you rest.
Trust Him with all your heart and serve Him faithfully and He will give you the desires of your heart according to His will.
I do that every day and I sleep very well every night.The peace I find in Him is indescribable. Not fear of the future, no insecurity and no selfpity.It hasn't been always like this.Only Jesus changed me and gave me this peace and joy I have.
And now it doesn't really matter. If He gives me a mate I will be grateful and it will be for His glory, not to fulfill the desires of my flesh. If He doesn't, I will still be happy, peaceful and serve Him with all my heart.
Since He became everything to me, I have not had one bad day, no worries, no fear, no loneliness, no selfpity.
Try this and you will remember me.
Praying for you guys. I love you. You are precious in His sight.