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ladies would you ask your ex-fiance to go to church the day after the break up (if you initiated the break up)
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LAVENDERGREEN
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« Reply #1 on: Late September, 2008 » |
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that would completely depend upon the circumstances of the break-up.
Best, Lavender
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LADYLUCK
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« Reply #2 on: Late September, 2008 » |
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I would ask him. All my ex's and I are good friends even the ones from 20 years ago we still talk.. Darlene
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« Reply #3 on: Late September, 2008 » |
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I think the day after the break-up is too soon.
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Abba'sChild - trishanna
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« Reply #4 on: Late September, 2008 » |
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Yeah, I have to agree ... the day after the break-up is too soon and would probably be painful. I'd give it time to settle down if it were me. Even a less serious relationship than an engagement might be a little too painful the day after a break-up.
Someone's heart might be in the right place though. Just wanting the best for their ex-fiancee. Just maybe not realizing that it could cause more hurt. I'd rather give someone the benefit of the doubt, since I don't know the situation.
But even so, if I were the one being asked, I think I would politely decline. Too much pain, too distracting during church is my thought.
Grace and peace,
trishanna
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« Reply #5 on: Late September, 2008 » |
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Why on earth would anyone want to go in those circumstances or the 'ex' want to ask you!  Kinda weird in my opinion. |
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« Reply #6 on: Late September, 2008 » |
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Did she even bother asking him while they were dating?
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« Reply #7 on: Late September, 2008 » |
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I wouldn't ask him to go to church with me the day after the break up. I've never been through that experience...but I suppose is very painful. Leave him alone please,and just pray for him and yourself ![[pray]](http://www.aboutchristiansingles.com/Smileys/default/bpraying.gif) His Bride |
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« Reply #8 on: Early November, 2008 » |
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She might have done that because she didn't want to lose face. Or perhaps she felt that if he wasn't with her, people would ask why and it would be more painful to explain the situation to others without crying. Or maybe she is so used to sitting with the one she cares for (even though now, she realizes she cares for him as a close friend and not marriage partner) that she doesn't want to sit alone. When you are used to sitting with someone in church, it is even harder to sit alone or with somebody new.
I think that obviously she had a good reason to ask, otherwise she wouldn't have done so, and I believe an ex-finance should still have enough love for her to oblige.
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« Reply #9 on: Early November, 2008 » |
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ladies would you ask your ex-fiance to go to church the day after the break up (if you initiated the break up)
No! I would never do that.. I believe that is unhealthy. That is a form of being lukewarm if you ask me!! You either our going to be togeather or not. Make up you mind. Like the bible says: Your are neither hot nor cold {in my words} I have no choice but to spew you out* It is almost like a game playing with out even really seeing it for what it truly is. My opinion: I would not do that.... Especially if you still love her.. I would say : be wise not to fall into that trap.... Lol |
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« Reply #10 on: Early November, 2008 » |
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ladies would you ask your ex-fiance to go to church the day after the break up (if you initiated the break up)
Well, I sure would not. A break-up is a break-up no matter how you slice it unless she is still hoping for a "change of heart" that he will "see the light" and realize that he really does love her and just made a big mistake. I have read the book, "He's Just Not That Into You", and if they were really into each other, the break-up would not have ever occured to begin with. But again, that is just my opinion. |
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« Reply #11 on: Mid-November, 2008 » |
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I can see that my response is very different from what others believe but I want to challenge you with these questions.
1. If you were engaged to this woman, you were basically ready to lay down your life for her and commit to loving her for the rest of your life, am I correct? So why would you, at this point, turn your back on your love for her (even though it is not reciprocated) and refuse a request to attend church with her? (regardless of her reasoning)
Perhaps this action, itself, reveals that you are not really prepared for marriage.
This reminds me of a funny story I read once about a man that promised, in elegant romantic poetry, the world to the lady he loved. But later when she asked him for a small favor, he said he was busy.
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« Reply #12 on: Mid-November, 2008 » |
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YUP! I like controversy.  keeps you on your toes. |
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PALMCASTER
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« Reply #13 on: Mid-November, 2008 » |
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Yep and the reason it's called a break up is because it is broken. So to answer the question...No not me! ladies would you ask your ex-fiance to go to church the day after the break up (if you initiated the break up)
Well, I sure would not. A break-up is a break-up no matter how you slice it unless she is still hoping for a "change of heart" that he will "see the light" and realize that he really does love her and just made a big mistake. I have read the book, "He's Just Not That Into You", and if they were really into each other, the break-up would not have ever occured to begin with. But again, that is just my opinion. your right on 1 of 7 angels, from 1 of 10,000 angels.  |
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« Reply #14 on: Mid-November, 2008 » |
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I don't see why a woman would do that unless she wants drama.
Or maybe she was sorry. But I thin k that would just prolong the agony that comes after a breakup. Leave him alone.
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