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Oh, good, Music. I love the fact you have your musical notes now. Looks great.  [thumbup] I decided to just get the task over with tonight...sigh......lol. ....and when I tried to post my heart you were posting.  Alotta symbols--eh?
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Maybe cuz u gotta Mac sis.  I'm on my PC right now. Alt + 3 = ♥

Or try Alt + other numbers:  ♥  ♦  ♣  ♠  •  ○  I can't get the musical notes anymore for some strange reason.  Good luck sis.    ○|-<

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« Reply #32 on: Late November, last year »
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Y'all, so what warrants a second chance?  And no, I'm not in a relationship as some inquisitive minds wanted to know. Cheesy
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A second chance for what?  Is it a good and Godly reason where both people in the relationship want to try and honor each other and God?  Then it might deserve a second chance....another try....wiping the slate clean and beginning anew.  

Is it a long-term relationship where the good outweighs the bad and one error or mistake or sin should not be reason to let a friendship or relationship completely die?  

Or is it a request for a second chance when another has repeatedly lied, been unfaithful, played games, etc.?  

What warrants a second chance?  Depends on the relationship, the reason(s).  Second chances are not only about forgiveness.  We can forgive another... and move on.  Second chances are for when hopefully two people want to try to do better in a relationship.  One person may have done something wrong, but it will depend on what both people seek.  

What is the relationship and what is the reason for the second chance?

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True HG. I think many times we need to let God orchestrate the "second chance" in another and we need to walk away.  [pray]
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As always thank you for your wisdom sisters. Cheesy I'm just stirring the pot, in hopes that the thoughts shared would help someone in need, if not currently, then some days. The question has specifically got to do with a dating scenario, hence it is under dating Stuff.


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The more specifically-stated the dating scenario, the easier it can be to give an appropriate answer. A second chance at dating after...?  Dated each other previously?  Reason for not continuing to date?  et cetera....
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Right. Cheesy Okay, how abt reason for not continuing to date.
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So sorry NM.  [thumbup]
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Quote from: NEWMERCIES on Mid-November, last year
I've heard of  perfect chances, tall chances, second chances, slim chances, fat chances, and what would be a no chance, chance because it's a miracle, and some real no chances because they won't have a chance.

Have you ever been in a situation(no matter what it was, be it romantic or not) where you were able to give someone a second chance? Were you ever in a place where you needed a second chance and it was actually given to you?

How was it/what was it abt? What warrants a second chance anyway? Pls feel free to share should you wish to. Be it a romantic or none romantic, what took to make/rekindle the relationship? Not to worry, I'm just asking questions, I'm not in a relationship. Cheesy

I'm so grateful to God that he gives me second chances many times. They're just way too many. I think the word GRACE describes them better. But again, perhaps GRACE isn't a chance, or is it?

So, pls, do share some.

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Right. Cheesy Okay, how abt reason for not continuing to date.

Do you mean someone wants a second chance for another date and the other person does not wish to continue to date?
Do you mean, how to say "not interested" without it it being a rejection?  It will be rejection, but we need to be honest about what we feel is the best....right?

Are you asking how to say it as gently as possible? (what kind of reason to give?)

I think it is best to be honest and just say that you do not wish to continue dating.  The reason?  Is the person asking for a reason?  We can give lots of reasons, but it gets down to one thing typically:  we're not interested in dating this person.  And sometimes the person can be wonderful.  I know many wonderful Christian men....but they are not romantically right for me or I for them. 

For myself, I would share that I am seeking God (because I would be) and do not feel led to continue dating. I might share more depending on the relationship, but that can get tricky because we can say too much.  I think most adults have a clue when someone says they are not interested in dating.  Does it have to be for a negative reason?  There are lots of special Christian men and women, but we will not be matched well for romance which is about shared interests, chemistry, compatible personalities, maturity in our walk, and more. 
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Sometimes circumstances or a person can change in such a way that a second chance in dating is a possibility.

Suppose a couple were attracted to each other, went out on a couple of dates, found that they had similar interests, beliefs, etc, but then circumstances prevented them from spending a lot of time together to see if they were really compatible.  Maybe one of them had to move away or devote his/her attention to a family member, job, or some other task that prevented him/her from getting to know the other person well.  Since they had not been dating long, they might not have made any commitments or felt it was best to break those commitments to take care of their responsibilities.  However, if circumstances changed again allowing the two people time and proximity to date each other, I'm sure they would welcome a second chance without qualms to find out if they were compatible.

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So sorry NM.  [thumbup]

Oh nooooo. Did I make you feel sorry for me now sis? I'm not dating. I just threw in some thoughts for us to share on. The day I'd be dating, you'll know. It'll take a miracle though. Cheesy
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Do you mean someone wants a second chance for another date and the other person does not wish to continue to date?
Do you mean, how to say "not interested" without it it being a rejection?  It will be rejection, but we need to be honest about what we feel is the best....right?

Are you asking how to say it as gently as possible? (what kind of reason to give?)

I think it is best to be honest and just say that you do not wish to continue dating.  The reason?  Is the person asking for a reason?  We can give lots of reasons, but it gets down to one thing typically:  we're not interested in dating this person.  And sometimes the person can be wonderful.  I know many wonderful Christian men....but they are not romantically right for me or I for them.  

For myself, I would share that I am seeking God (because I would be) and do not feel led to continue dating. I might share more depending on the relationship, but that can get tricky because we can say too much.  I think most adults have a clue when someone says they are not interested in dating.  Does it have to be for a negative reason?  There are lots of special Christian men and women, but we will not be matched well for romance which is about shared interests, chemistry, compatible personalities, maturity in our walk, and more.  


Thanks for asking HG. You do that so well. Cheesy I know you want to help. But really, I don't have a specific situation, other than what/how I phrased the question/topic. I understand it would have been easier to tackle something more specific.  But I think the thoughts you've shared are wonderful and may help anybody in need. I know you have a world of wisdom sis -- perhaps picking a situation and zeroing on it as you see fitting would serve well, however much or little you wish to share.
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Sometimes circumstances or a person can change in such a way that a second chance in dating is a possibility.

Suppose a couple were attracted to each other, went out on a couple of dates, found that they had similar interests, beliefs, etc, but then circumstances prevented them from spending a lot of time together to see if they were really compatible.  Maybe one of them had to move away or devote his/her attention to a family member, job, or some other task that prevented him/her from getting to know the other person well.  Since they had not been dating long, they might not have made any commitments or felt it was best to break those commitments to take care of their responsibilities.  However, if circumstances changed again allowing the two people time and proximity to date each other, I'm sure they would welcome a second chance without qualms to find out if they were compatible.

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Thanks Music. I tell ya my sisters are so wise. Cheesy [thumbup]
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Quote from: NEWMERCIES on Late November, last year
Oh nooooo. Did I make you feel sorry for me now sis? I'm not dating. I just threw in some thoughts for us to share on. The day I'd be dating, you'll know. It'll take a miracle though. Cheesy

Well I wish you were dating the "one" for you....but my dear Sister my apology was due to my incorrect posting. Sorry about that. Love you much.
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