My sister, my heart breaks at every hearing of such things. In a course of a week I've heard of at least four marriages taking arrows. My heart was quite burdened and heavy abt this today. I cried out to God for what I think this God's idea, the institution of marriage, is being beaten for. Indeed, the people in it have choices, yet I think the enemy may be at work to plunder, destroy and kill. May Father lift your friends up and out of the snare, may he help them yield to his will even in the face of tough choices and a real love.

HB, I wish that mine was the  last one to end. I don't like the face of a society with broken lives that the enemy is suggesting. Let's pray for softened hearts instead of hard ones, and the safety and the good of all involved. Let's pray that they'll yield and run to God instead of running away from him and from one another.

Thanks for bringing this to us sis. Will pray as he leads.

I love you,

NEWMERCIES

What came to my mind are two books... just a suggestion:  
The Power Of A Praying Wife by Stormie Omartarian
The Proper Care And Feeding Of Husbands by Dr. Laura Schlessinger

Ramone brother...I hear you!
And I agree with what you said. It is indeed very sad.
On the other hand; when is the body of Christ taking a stand and being open about the importance of Christians not marring unbelievers? We try to be kind to our fellow brothers and sisters, and actually we just compromise the truth, hoping that somehow the unbeliever will "get saved" and thus we let them fall dawn the cliff.
Please Lord help us to speak the truth in love and save our fellow believers from the traps of the enemy.
In Jesus name I pray! 

Hmmm...you are suggesting the ideal...unfortunately we are far away from that 

It matters.  It also matters how the church attempts to help, or if they attempt to force.

A church holding a couples toes-to-the-fire doesn't help anything if the underlying problems are simply covered over under the heading of "church discipline".  I can recount story after story of how churches keep one spouse locked in abusive relationships effectively covering things up to avoid embarrassements, and often allowing the abuser justification for their actions.  Leaving the abused with no recourse but to accept the abuse or flee in shame.

And divorce is a forgiveable sin, even still.

Lawrence...if you read my previous posts, my friend's husband is not saved and doesn't even care about God or his wife.
I told you, it's been a struggle for my friend to attend a home church somewhere in the area.They don't go to church and of course no one can talk to him about their marriage. He is the one who is never wrong.
My Christian friend is a woman of God. She's been waiting and waiting for him to come to the Lord and walk together. But things are going out of control as he is falling deeper and deeper into the trap of his career which has become his god.
And my friend is very sad. She never wanted to divorce him. But as it is there is no other way.
I just pray that God will turn this situation upside down and all things work out for good for both of them.
I feel very sorry for his soull and his family who trapped in so much pride and give no place to God in their lives.
May the Lord have mercy and save their soul, in Jesus name I pray! I know He loves them, just as He loves us all..

HB, this brings tears to my eyes when reading your post and others... I can relate to this....My advice for you is, offer support, encourage her to not look down depressed and i know its depressing...If she really wants her marriage to workout, then she needs to get help for herself and then do everything she can to save her marriage, that means helping him as well dealing with his issues and giving him support when your able to reach that point of communication again,,Im telling  you your marriage is worth saving if theres been no abusive relationship or infidelity.. My ex tells me almost everytime I see him how much he wants his family back, but now he has a new family so theres no putting it back now...The choices we make, make an impact on our children the most, they are the ones were letting down the most...Seek GOD..