Ok I will explain better. My sister has a habit of not wanting to work. So she will work under the table as she did a year ago clean a few houses. She would get disability and unemployment which is not right as we know. She is friends with a disabled man. She swore she took no money from him and as she said one hand washed the other. I never agreed with it. I felt she may be asking him for money as her bills were far above her means by far. He also would say oh right I hae to pay such and such bill. So I told her do not ask any money be self sufficient work or do things right. Well instead she would lie high on the hog charging willy nilly spending bouncing checks. And many times I would lend 900 here she would not lose housing, 500 here 800 here. If she paid any it was late or she would find a way to get out of paying. Her life was out of control so my father wrote her off. Many times she would come for visits then ask for money and plead for it. He would lend and never get it back. Meanwhile I had her do a housecleaning job paid well took her out to eat. Then noticed bank statements stolen. She admitted it was her as she wanted to know how much more I could give her. Well I cut talk for 8 mos. Then she was about to be evicted so lent money. More bouncing checks and all of her. More money from me. Vicious cycle. When I set limits she wrote a letter to my father saying awful lies of me. Well her disabled friend noticed he had charge accts they felt he could not get so charged her for illegally coercing him to get it for her. This I don't believe as I know he wanted the charges. Well she is guilty of using him and all for money in emergencies so she is guilty. Not of credit card charge she is in court for. Meanwhile, she states she did hae him pay for some bills so she is taking him to fla with a 21000 disability payment.well his family would not let him go and so she took her daughter and grandchild. She overspent, paid tons of money for irs fraud, and loans and all bouncing for a clean slate she says for court and now is 500 dol over bouncing a check. So from 21000thous to .inus 500. Well as she has an ongoing case the courts said she would have a year in jail if she had new charges. So she writes me she needs the 500 to pacify the bank or she will be in jail. Meanwhile I have tried to get her to walk a straight line legaly. But she keeps using people living above her means and all. I have prayed loved her stayed away, helped when I could. But now I tell her I will lend the 500 dol as during this court case u will be in jail and I want you out on bail right now. So no more helping and I pray I can not help. I am a godly women but her life is not godly and though she says she is a christian she is a big swindler with money. Sorry but I hope this makes more sense. The only thing I ever wanted was God and righteousness.
Dear Joan,
Whatever you decide, will be the right decision. Make it as wisely as possible, then let it go. The moment of absolute certainty never arrives. From man's perspective. From God's, we can have blessed assurance, that on THIS Rock we stand, and that He will fill all His promises to His Beloved children, although I can promise you... it's never the way we think He will.
And that's ok, too...because in the end it really is out of our hands, and when we let go and let God, well...that's the end.
The very fact that you can say what you do...that the only thing you ever wanted was God and righteousness... well, sis in Him, that says it all. Hang in there.
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Love,
TBC ☼:-)
