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So what do you think, sir? Just because they are their children, parents should do whatever they want with them? I say NO, sir! I strongly disagree. If parents, Christians or non Christians, are a threat to their kids, they must not be allowed to see them. Adults must be responsible for their actions. Children are a gift from God not their parents possesion, that they may do whatever they like. There are parents who use their children to do very hard work in a very young age to bring money home and feed them, there are parents who send their children to the street to beg for money, so they they can have food, cigarettes and even alcohol. There are parents who sell their children as sex slaves to make money.Not to mention parents who sexually molest their kids in a young age. Have mercy O GOD of heaven!!!!! I would put those parents into jail and give them a chance to repent and change. That would be great great mercy, cause according to the OT law they deserve to die. One parent, whose three children have been with us for 10 years, sold their twin babies for money in another country. Oh, my God! My cry is: God help us save the children from any form of abuse, either from their parents or other adults! God make us a voice in this world, for those who have no voice to cry for their lives! Help us Lord save the little ones and bring them to You, for theirs is the kingdom!
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Ramone, I agree with you up to a point, and this is where it is good to have some regulation.  Bear with me here, because I can already anticipate you railing against the government, but if we have laws regarding which things are too terrible to allow the parents to have any right to their children anymore--if we have some consistency--then we eliminate the potential for the type of abuse that you are speaking about--where someone's rights are taken because of a mistake, or because they belong to what someone else might deem a "cult."  Who decides what is a "cult"?  According to many on here, Mormons and Jehovah's Witnesses are a cult--so should their children be taken from them?  We get into some gray areas in some of these issues if there are not standardized answers to these issues.  If every agency decides for themselves which parents are fit and which are not, you'd have a more messed-up system than we have right now.  No, what I think is that we need to reform the laws we already have.  And I think we need to take the children's wishes into consideration.  If a child is begging and pleading not to have to spend time with a parent because they are afraid--we need to listen to them.  Most children maintain a deep desire to be with their parents even when a home is wildly dysfunctional--I have seen this in cases where you would think there would be little connection left--but if a child expresses fear or a desire not to be with a parent, I say God help the person who sends them back without listening.

As for Charles Manson--he did, in fact, father at least one child, who was adopted after the arrests and never knew who his father was until recently.  I read this in the news sometime in the last year.  I would have major issues with a child being put through that--what it would do to their self-image to maintain a link with someone like that.  Even learning this news as an adult had a major impact on this man--wondering if he could have inherited some "evil gene"--think what it would do to a child, if they visited someone like Manson in prison, with his wild, demonic eyes, and hateful speech--I think it would shatter that child's self-esteem and ideas about the world forever.  I do agree that there are things that deserve the severing of the parental relationship.  But I also think there needs to be some kind of oversight so that these things are not just decided at the discretion of a multitude of agencies or individuals.  And this is where government comes in--and laws.  And back to what we initially said--I think the laws need to be strengthened to be pro-children.
Interesting the divide here--it seems the women are pretty much consistently in agreement--maybe because we have an innate calling to protect children. 

Yes I say save the children from abuse too.  But they are not your children dear sis.  The father and mother have a right and an obligation to see their children.... no matter how bad they've been.  I think even Charles Manson should be able to see his children (if he had any).  If the mom was a prostitute she should still be able to her children.  To harm them no, but to see them yes.

Dear sister Bride, they say almost half the people in the church have seen porn.  Should we divide the families of the church because we deem some too sinful?  Are we better than them?  Are they worse than us?  Are we more spiritual?  Better?  A cut above those demonic heathen folks that can't control their sex drive?  We look down our noses at sex offenders while in our own congregations we have sins going on like porn, fornication, and adultery.... to name just a few.

How would you feel if you couldn't see your children because of some mistake you made?  Blessed are the merciful for they shall obtain mercy.
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« Reply #17 on: Four weeks ago »
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So what do you think, sir? Just because they are their children, parents should do whatever they want with them? I say NO, sir! I strongly disagree.

Sistah HB, I did not say that.  If you are not gonna try to understand what I am saying, but instead get angry and stress your own views, then why should I continue the dialogue when it has once again been reduced to an argument?  I think this is why many guys don't get married ... because you gals argue with men so much.

Sister BG:  Thanks for being understanding .. but I disagree.  I think Manson's offspring should be allowed to visit him in prison.  U may disagree and give me 15 reasons why .. but I have my right to an opinion.

And this may be a 'mother's instinct' thing but I think it is more a 'man' thing.  I think if it were a woman offender you gals would understand that a woman does not want to be separated from her children with no possibility of seeing them.
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Ramone, I am talking about both men and women.  Some of the Manson "girls" also had children, and I feel the same way.  If someone stabs a pregnant woman to death, they have given up their right to their children.  Period.  I don't care if they are man, woman, or extra-terrestial, that acted severed their rights just as it severs their rights to be in the community.  This is not a gender thing--one of the children I've known had the most problems with her mother, and I would have supported her father seeing her but not her mother until her mother got herself together.  This is what I'm saying--we HAVE to think of the children's safety over and above a parent's "rights."  As HB said, children are not posessions. 
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Me angry? Not at all! I don't speak in anger. I speak in love. But love must be tough sometimes. Have you read "Tough Love" James Dobson? I commend that book. My heart aches for children and those who are weak and have no voice. I raise my voice towards heaven in prayer and supplication, in intercession and fasting, at the feet of the Savior, and I would, if God would help me, try and help as many as I can to have a life, to feel safe and be able to live free from all the forms of abuse I mentioned above.
And I was talking about parents sir, not fathers. Parents include both mothers and fathers. Both can be very nasty and a threat to their children. A great disappointment to their kids that will damage them for a life time.That is so sad. In that case I say again: NO! They should not meet their children, except in an environment, supervised by people who can provide safety for the kids.When children reach the age of 18 they can decide to meet them.
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Nothing against anyone. I am just sharing my heart for the little ones.That is actually what I do in daily bases. I help children to have a life. Give hope and a future. Set them free from abusive parents who have no capability or taking care of them and would destroy their lives, even if they don't intend to do it.
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Yes I say save the children from abuse too.  But they are not your children dear sis.  The father and mother have a right and an obligation to see their children.... no matter how bad they've been.

If they have been a threat to their children then I strongly disagree with this.I think even Charles Manson should be able to see his children (if he had any).  If the mom was a prostitute she should still be able to her children.  To harm them no, but to see them yes.

If they have done no harm to their children I agree thay should meet them, in a safe envirement with assistance.

Dear sister Bride, they say almost half the people in the church have seen porn.

I hope this is not true, but if it is,the Church is Jesus's Bride and He knows how to deal with her issues.
Should we divide the families of the church because we deem some too sinful?  Are we better than them?  Are they worse than us?  Are we more spiritual?  Better?
We are to spend time on our knees for those who are in bondage and want freedom in Jesus name.
How would you feel if you couldn't see your children because of some mistake you made?
 How would you feel if your children were molested sexually by the other parent or any other person? I personally agree to have the judgement according to the law executed on me if I was one of them. There is no exeption. That is the price of sin for everyone.
 
Blessed are the merciful for they shall obtain mercy.

I don't believe MERCY here means "let the criminals have their way". I believe in giving them a chance to hear the truth, given them a chance to be free and change,put things right and live a life of integrity.If they don't allow God to help them, they must stay in prison for the rest of their lives.No child or adult should be their victim and suffer life consecuences for someone who can't control their sexual drive. And yes, I would visit them in prison too. But that is another subject.

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« Reply #21 on: Four weeks ago »
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I agree HB. If any of the parents poses danger to their own offspring -- be it natarul or adopted -- they harm their rights to parenthood. Sad but very true, I find. I would agree with the state's intervention then and there, in instances like this one. I don't think this is an issue of gender differences/preferences. It's abt the safety and wellbeing of children who should be be protected by sane adults, especially their own parents.

Much love sis,

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I do not believe anyone has the right to deny parents access to there children for any reason.  I do believe that if there are certain issues that would required controlled visitation then let it happen but not denial of visitation . No Not at all. But when the child is old enough to make there own decision ok.

We have opened the door just a crack regarding this issue many years ago and now you can drive a semi through it , all in the name of child protection.  I find it , again as  control people want over others.. Lets face the facts , we all know there are people who want to control and some of us have even been married to them and it's no differant in this situation. 
It's always made to look good from the governments point but in the end it's a snare of the devil.  We Christians need to get better understanding of the worlds ways and stand against this stuff .  The word of God constantly talks about this stuff and we seem to think it's not going to effect us .
I have read on this thread that once a problems adult always a problem ed adult , not so as always we forget the God equation , no it doesn't happen very often but it does and can happen.   God is and always will be the God of a second , third , forth and every chance he can give you before he gives up on us.
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Bro HS, I'd generally agree with you that Gvt should stay out of the usual family affairs/primary parental role. I for one, would be against the spreading of its tentacles just for the sake of it, wherever it doesn't have the primary right to do so. No to big Gvt. It should be reduced, IF it is to be effective.

Parents in the family as an institution are to protect their children, among the many other responsibilities they have. It is however, a God given role of the Gvt to exercise justice and/or mercy in dealing with crime in the effort of purging out(or in mild terms, in dealing with) lawlessness, to secure safety of its citizens or those who live within its boundaries, I believe.

When a parent fails to be that which God has called him/her to be and instead jeopardises the safety of his/her own child(or any child for this matter), to the extent entailed by the article above, a giving away of the "usual, sole rights" get passed onto the hands of the Gvt(which then will dictate what is to be done) or any "neighbor" who then will take proper care of the child(ren). Infact I think a parent who does such a thing opens his/her children to satan, himself.

God cares for the fatherless(& the motherless), when their own parents forsake them, he takes them up -- I think the 'foresaking' as well as the 'taking up' have many faces.(Psl. 27:10)

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Bro HS, my apology to you. In trying to quote you, I ended up deleting and modifying your original post, it wasN'T done intentionally. Pls forgive me. I need to do something abt this, as it seems to be getting the best of me again!
I did almost the same thing to Clark, the other day. [mopper]

You had disagreed that the Gvt has a God-given authority to intefere with our lives.

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Bro HS, you seem to be speaking in very general terms on Gvt's inteference with our lives. I do agree that it should have as little as possible to do with individuals, especially given that we Christians would be obedient and a yielding people to God.  However it's allowed room(which you may call, inteference), only, when can it do that?

Indeed, we're to obey God first. Yet, when we choose Kings and Queens we opened ourselves to some other authority. From our forerunners, it as the same case and then like topday, God regards Gvts, which doesn't include the ungodly, immoral, unjust stuff some of these do. And you know what, when these authorities do what is of God(which they're supposed to do), it's a good thing. I find it's when individuals fail to obey God in their lives, that often they find the Gvt on their cases. I could be wrong.

Pls see what uncle Paul wrote in his Epistle to the Roman Church and also what Uncle Peter says in his 1st Epistle -- both concerning the issue of Gvt/authority. It(the Gvt) is an institution ordained by God just like the family/Church is/are.

And let's not forget that we live in pluralistic societies.

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David Rothenberg ( http://www.nydailynews.com/archives/news/1996/05/17/1996-05-17_facing_father_from_hell__bur.html ) was burned over 90% of his body by his father.  His father kidnapped him when he was six years old and set him on fire.  The boy lived with the diligent and constant efforts of his mother.  Christ said to love your neighbor as yourself.  Children are our neighbors, too.  There are parents (women and men) who have done harm and are doing harm to their children.  God would have all mankind to be saved.  Until a dangerous parent has changed, I do not see how requiring a traumatized child to see and be with a dangerous parent serves a good purpose.  

Then His mother and His brothers arrived, and standing outside they sent word to Him and called Him.  A crowd was sitting around Him, and they said to Him, “Behold, Your mother and Your brothers are outside looking for You.” Answering them, He said, “Who are My mother and My brothers?”  Looking about at those who were sitting around Him, He said, “Behold My mother and My brothers! “For whoever does the will of God, he is My brother and sister and mother.”   Mark 3.

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Good points, Dorothy.  And not only does it not serve a GOOD purpose--in fact, it is emotionally damaging to the children, and possibly lethal in some cases. 

How would all the divorced people on here like to be REQUIRED to spend time with their ex-spouse, even if the spouse was physically or emotionally abusive?  How is it that people who are so opposed to the current government will still accept the role of the government in divorcing, rather than just walking away without that intrusive government piece of paper?  Where is the mercy for the abusive ex-spouse, if you are not willing to spend weekends with them?  Children should have the same rights as adults in terms of being safe from those who would harm them.  They are not chattel, they are people. 

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I wouldn't want to spend time with ANY abuser, even if it was my parent.  Why don't children have the right to choose, HS?  Aren't you arguing that the govt. should not be controlling their choices?  If so, then the girls should NOT have to go simply because a judge told them to. 
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I do not believe anyone has the right to deny parents access to there children for any reason.

I'm in general agreement that the government has way too much controlling influence in how parents raise their children.

This particular case, I disagree.

Child porn is at the top 2 of my list of horrible sins and crimes. Right behind murder.

Child porn is not the same as "porn" where consenting adults are doing whatever.
Child porn is a crime in the highest degree. Those 8 year old girls are not consenting to be raped by 55 year old men.
And who is recording this dastardly activity?

Once several years ago before I discovered that you do NOT click on links you receive in your inbox, I stumbled onto a child porn site.
It was the kind of experience that you stare in disbelief at your screen for 30 seconds trying to figure out if you are really seeing what you think you are seeing…
Then… the rest of the night, you can't eat your dinner and you can't sleep.  You realize the horror those children are going through.
They are, literally, 5 year old girls, 10 year old girls,  having sex with old men, with someone there taking pictures.
Sometimes it is 5 and 10 year old boys having sex with old men.
What horrible, horrible crime that is.

People don't watch that stuff without having serious, serious problems.

People that want to watch child porn should not ever be allowed to be around children..
I don't care if it the government making rules or anyone else. It is the way it should be.  

A man that was convicted of child porn should not be allowed near children, and it doesn't matter if it is his children or anyone else's.
There is no other way to look at it. And just to say that government has too much control over us doesn't justify this serious mistake.

In this case, the children come first. Who cares if we don’t like big government? Children come first. Period.
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