I took a step back from this topic once I realized my opinion ... maybe I miscommunicated myself.  I don't know.

The reason I disagreed and feel I failed in explaining why I disagreed ... I wanted "it" more than he did while married.  I have a hard time explaining myself at times.  I just know sin is rampant in our society.  If a man or woman is going to step out on his/her spouse, it's not from "lack of getting it at home".  I don't think any woman should carry that burden or shame if her husband is entertaining his lust with porn, strip joints, and actually committing the act with another.  The only person accountable for his actions is himself.
Or change the his to her and himslelf to herself.

I really wanted to defend you because I had this sense you might have been carrying the burden.  If I read between the lines wrong, I apologize.

The other ladies and the gentleman (BearKat) has done a much better job in speaking.

  I would think making love is more like showing love and should be done during the day and the marriage bed is the climax of expressing your love for each other through your body.  
God created us with a sexuality and it is wonderful. I believe that becoming one physically is very intimate and should hold a special
place in the marriage. If your marriage is not well outside the marriage bed then that will and does affect the quality of freedom in the marriage bed. There is a reason scripture tells us to not let the sun go down with anger in our hearts.  

Robbie Can you read the sign

Women
Ooops I forgot you love us so much heheh. Go back to the men You may get mobbed

And Sex in marriage is all good. it is the ultimate gift you can give your partner and it is not meant to be a weapon against your mate, ladies or men lol

Bethjeanne

Note to Bear and Robbie

You come to sister Chicks only forums you have to wear the SHIRT

LOL

Bethjeanne

Dear Karen,

Thanks for elaborating on your thoughts regarding this topic.  I sure appreciate your insights and wisdom.

Love you, my sister,


Edna

As Christians the word is our authority in everything. 1 Corinthians 7:4-5 says 
"The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer.Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

3 things here:
1. Husband and wives do not have exclusive right to their body. Their body is also as much their spouses as it is theirs.
2. Spouses are not to deprive each sexually. except on two grounds.

• by mutual consent
• for a time of prayer

3. After a period of abstinence from sexual intimacy due to the above mentioned conditions, spouses are to come together again to celebrate their love through satisfying each other. The word gives a rationale why sexual activity between husband and wife should resume right away. THAT they may not be tempted by SATAN.

I think disobedience to the above Biblical instruction is one of the many reasons behind the disintegration of a marriage.

May I also say that I find it a bit weird that our brothers were excluded from a forum on a subject that is as important to them. Our brothers are the best person to help us ladies understand the role that sexual satisfaction plays in strengthening or disintegration of a marriage. I believe we would be wise if we listen to them and try to understand their needs in this area. Let us be mindful of fulfilling our God ordained roles as stipulated in his words.

I pray that each of us will let the word of God instruct us in the way we should go. As we trust in the Lord and as we seek His face concerning any issue, we can trust that He will show us the way.  Love you all .

Elsie

LOL! God's blessing upon you bro.
Elsie

Besides if I became a nun, I couldn't be a soldier.  And I would have to pray to those silly catholic statues and virgins and saints.  And I might cause a fire in the church, with all those candles being lit in the lobby...